Making a parenting plan –

If both of you have the same interests in mind and want to agree on arrangements for your children, you may want to write a parenting plan to have a written document of the responsibilities and break down of the childcare. In doing so, you should consider including the following:

• A parenting schedule that will set out the new routine and will be a guide on how time will be spent co-parenting.
• How you will establish a healthy form of communication, as this will be vital in every aspect from the small affairs to the big decisions.
• How the finances concerned with supporting your children will be provided.
• How to maintain your goals.

A parenting plan is not a legally binding document. If you feel that this would be beneficial in your circumstances, please speak to us so we can advise on the next steps.

The Mediation process –

In the unfortunate circumstances where you cannot come to an agreement, you must attempt mediation. This can be very useful way to resolve any child arrangement disputes in a cost effective way and you must have demonstrated you have attempted mediation before you can apply for a child arrangement order.

To define it simply, a mediator is an independent third party that will form a bridge of communication between both parents to help reach an amicable agreement. However, both parents will need to attend a MIAM (Mediation information and assessment meeting) to assess whether the case is appropriate for mediation.

NJS Law can help you through this process too and advise you along the way. We can provide legal advice and elaborate on any terms of the agreement where necessary.

Child Arrangements Order –

You can apply for a child arrangements order through the court if an agreement cannot be reached through solicitor’s negotiation or mediation. An application to the Court under the Children Act 1989 is seen as the final resort to resolve all matters that remain in dispute.

We are aware that Court proceedings can feel overwhelming and daunting and should only be issued if there is an unavoidable necessity to do so. We fully appreciate that this can be an emotional and stressful time, but our specialists are fully able to assist you through this, whether it’s guiding you through the process, preparing any required documentation or representing you at Court.

No matter the difficulties you are undergoing, our NJS Law Family Specialists are here to provide guidance and support. Please call or email NJS Lawtoday with any concern or queries you may have about child arrangements.

Having parental responsibility means that both parents have the same responsibilities and rights as parents as far as third parties are concerned, they are both entitled to information concerning their child’s welfare and should consult with one another about issues such as their health, education and religion.

After separation, positive communication with the other parent is imperative. Unfortunately, child arrangements can breakdown and problems can arise when, despite communication, agreements cannot be reached. A typical example being a dispute over a child’s holiday; when one parent wishes to take the child abroad on holiday and the other does not consent.

If Children Act proceedings have previously taken place there shall be an existing child arrangement Order to be followed and this Order shall set out with whom the child lives and the time that is to be spent with the other parent. The parent who has the benefit of the “live with order” shall be able to take the child out of the UK for a period of less than one month without needing the permission of the parent who has the “spend time with order”.

To be clear, the “spends time with parent” will still need permission from the “live with parent” if they wish to take the child out of the UK, even if there is a child arrangement Order in place. However, if legal representation was provided through the course of those proceedings, holiday arrangements should be incorporated into the Final Order to ensure there is clarity going forwards.

The most pressing question to ask in the circumstance where a holiday cannot be agreed between the parents, and there is not an existing Defined Child Arrangements Order in place, is which parent has the responsibility to rectify the dispute?

It is common when one parent does not wish for their child to travel with the other parent that the non-travelling parent shall take matters into their own hands and seek legal advice. If matters cannot be agreed through solicitors’ negotiation or mediation, an application would be made to Court under section 8 CA 1989 for a prohibited steps Order; to prohibit the proposed holiday from taking place. It may well be that through the course of the proceeding assurances will be given to the non-travelling party which will alleviate all concerns, in which case an agreed Order could be entered into to enable the travel to go ahead.

Any Order made by the Court must be clear, setting out in plain terms what has been ordered and its duration.

It is important for the parent who is concerned about the travel to consider the following simple factors in their decision making;

– Will the child be kept safe.

– Does the travelling parent have the capacity to safeguard the child throughout the holiday.

– Does the child have the capacity to express their wish to attend, and if so, will the travel be to their benefit.

– Have the holiday details been provided including the destination, accommodation, inward and outward flight details.

– What is the likelihood of the child not being returned.

If all the above factors are not of concern, it is generally accepted that the holiday should take place.

If the non-traveling party does have concerns in regard to these factors, they must seek urgent legal advice. Where there is a possibility of the child being permanently removed from the UK it may be necessary to make an urgent application to the Court to request a port alert. If granted, the police should be urgently notified and they shall contact all ports and airports within the UK through the police national computer to ensure that the travelling party is not able to leave the country with the child.

If you have any questions or concerns about whether as a father you have parental responsibility, whether you need permission to take your child on holiday or whether you should stop your child being taken on holiday, then please contact NJS Law who can offer advice and assistance in all matters relation to child arrangements.